Increase Your Intimacy with Self with These 11 Affirmations
There's nothing like sipping tea over a deep conversation with your friends and loved ones.
You know what I'm talking about—those moments where you feel like your guard is down, your heart is open, and you’re comfortable speaking what’s on your mind and heart without the fear of being judged.
Your intentions are understood.
Ahh, intimacy.
We say we want more of it; more REAL, below the surface girl talk. Learning about the gap between what you’re experiencing now and what you desire to experience are closely related to the impacts of loneliness.
The concept of loneliness is subjective in nature; for instance, one can be in a room filled with people and still feel lonely.
According to a 2018 report by the Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, 22 percent of adults in the United States say they often or always feel lonely or socially isolated.
The hard truth is, physical and emotional intimacy starts within and cannot be fulfilled by anyone outside of ourselves.
Another truth is that, for us to survive we need connections with others. The idea is to dance in the middle—not overly pouring into others to the point we forget our own needs and desires, and not overspending time in isolation to the point where we separate ourselves from the world.
So what is self-intimacy exactly?
It's about being aware of your feelings, caring about those feelings, and feeling confident enough to share with others.
Self-intimacy is a journey. After acknowledging those raw emotions, it's then having the courage to loosen our protective grips on who we are in front of others. Regardless of them being our love partners, close friends, or even strangers.
The Affirmations
Next time you find yourself in solitude:
My decisions are my own. I stand behind my words and actions. My path is my choice.
I am loved, loving, and loveable. Love is always flowing to me.
I am gentle and comfortable with myself.
I let go of approval-seeking and controlling tendencies.
Time in solitude is a gift to myself.
Each day, I become more comfortable with being solo with my thoughts.
When I'm in a state of peace, it becomes easier to recognize the sacred aspects of the world around me.
I am in the process of exploring all parts of myself; I stay curious and open.
I am whole and complete.
In stillness, I become.
My body tells me what I need—I open my heart to listen.
Reflection Questions
How do you define loneliness and solitude? What's the difference?
When in solitude, does it become easier to draw your attention to distractions?
What does intentional solitude look like for you?
